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I have huge abandonment issues, and the source is mainly my childhood. 

How do you cope with them? I feel like everyone; my family, my best friend, my other friends are going to leave me one day. Or that the love and affection they show is just for show and tell and a facade.

How do I stop thinking so negatively. I have this nagging thought in my mind that everybody will leave me one day and that in the near future I will be alone. 

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That would be a huge help as I have always wanted to know why he is the way he is. Thanks for the input! ❤️

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Thank you! I hope so too ❤️

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You are so young! You shouldn't think that way. Do you know how many people will come into your life?? Some will stay and some will leave. But for sure you will never end up alone 🤍 don't live with this fear, it is normal to have people in your life that will stay and others that will just pass and leave something for you to build the person you will be. Work on acceptance, it will help you 💪🏼

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3 minutes ago, gia said:

You are so young! You shouldn't think that way. Do you know how many people will come into your life?? Some will stay and some will leave. But for sure you will never end up alone 🤍 don't live with this fear, it is normal to have people in your life that will stay and others that will just pass and leave something for you to build the person you will be. Work on acceptance, it will help you 💪🏼

It's sort of embedded in me that everyone will leave, no matter blood or not. It's kinda crazy and I'm always thinking about this. I have tried not to, but then when I'm having a manic episode it always comes back to me. 

I'll try to work on that. Thank you 💕

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I know exactly the feeling... 

But bot with my family I know they gonna be always around. But with friends I feel the same.  For me its because I have been disappointed and betrayed so much by people. I never had chance with people that why today I'm really isolated , unfortunately I give up on having real friends or having a girlfriend   I rather be alone than to be hurt again but I'm a wrong example lol

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1 minute ago, Adeline said:

I know exactly the feeling... 

But bot with my family I know they gonna be always around. But with friends I feel the same.  For me its because I have been disappointed and betrayed so much by people. I never had chance with people that why today I'm really isolated , unfortunately I give up on having real friends or having a girlfriend   I rather be alone than to be hurt again but I'm a wrong example lol

I feel you. I would rather not try at all then be disappointed in the end when I could have saved myself the trouble in the first place.

My issues root from my parents, mostly my dad. Half of my issues are because of him. 

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1 minute ago, chimera2.0 said:

Have you tried speak to a doctor or mental health professional?

Ahhh therapy. 

I unfortunately can't get therapy at the moment. I'm waiting until I have my own job and move out to get therapy.

My therapy right now is dyeing my hair and bleaching my brows 😭

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1 minute ago, dafniye said:

Ahhh terapi. 

Maalesef şu anda terapi alamıyorum. Kendi işim olana ve terapiye gitmek için taşınana kadar bekliyorum.

Şu anki terapim saçımı boyamak ve kaşlarımı açmak is

I hope you get it soon! ily

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4 minutes ago, dafniye said:

Ahhh therapy. 

I unfortunately can't get therapy at the moment. I'm waiting until I have my own job and move out to get therapy.

My therapy right now is dyeing my hair and bleaching my brows 😭

I'm very sorry to hear that. So in the meantime try to take care of yourself, including your emotions.If you need any help we're all here!

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1 minute ago, chimera2.0 said:

Bunu duyduğuma çok üzgünüm. Bu arada duygularınız da dahil olmak üzere kendinize iyi bakmaya çalışın, yardıma ihtiyacınız olursa hepimiz buradayız!

Yes, we are all here! We're family Little Monsters!!!!:cheering:

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2 minutes ago, chimera2.0 said:

I'm very sorry to hear that. So in the meantime try to take care of yourself, including your emotions.If you need any help we're all here!

Thank you. I have found that talking about my problems here gives me quite a relief, so I'm quite happy ❤️

 

1 minute ago, taygerm said:

Yes, we are all here! We're family Little Monsters!!!!:cheering:

Today and always ❤️

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1 hour ago, dafniye said:

I have huge abandonment issues, and the source is mainly my childhood. 

How do you cope with them? I feel like everyone; my family, my best friend, my other friends are going to leave me one day. Or that the love and affection they show is just for show and tell and a facade.

How do I stop thinking so negatively. I have this nagging thought in my mind that everybody will leave me one day and that in the near future I will be alone. 

Noooo i’m so sorry to hear that :(( 

Im sure everything will be ok! Is there anybody you can trust to talk to about this like a friend or family member? Maybe they can help you get professional help if you need it

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Noooo i’m so sorry to hear that :(( 

Im sure everything will be ok! Is there anybody you can trust to talk to about this like a friend or family member? Maybe they can help you get professional help if you need it

If I talked to my parents about this they'll probably laugh or call me insane. My sisters though, I think to an extent they would understand, but I'm very embarrassed and ashamed to talk about it. I don't want to be labeled as a wannabe teenager by them. 

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1 hour ago, dafniye said:

I feel you. I would rather not try at all then be disappointed in the end when I could have saved myself the trouble in the first place.

My issues root from my parents, mostly my dad. Half of my issues are because of him. 

I had a lot of issues with my father too. I couldn't stand him until I went to therapy.  I didn't went for that but talking about my childhood made me understand certain things and eventually made our relationship better. 

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Just now, dafniye said:

If I talked to my parents about this they'll probably laugh or call me insane. My sisters though, I think to an extent they would understand, but I'm very embarrassed and ashamed to talk about it. I don't want to be labeled as a wannabe teenager by them. 

Don’t be embarrassed!! Mental Health is nothing to be embarrassed about. You cant keep it bottled in, you should try talk to your sister if you think she would understand 

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1 minute ago, Adeline said:

Babamla da pek çok sorunum vardı. Terapiye gidene kadar ona dayanamadım. Bunun için gitmedim ama çocukluğum hakkında konuşmak bazı şeyleri anlamamı sağladı ve sonunda ilişkimizi daha iyi hale getirdi. 

I'm very happy for you, I hope you're still fine with her

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1 minute ago, Adeline said:

I had a lot of issues with my father too. I couldn't stand him until I went to therapy.  I didn't went for that but talking about my childhood made me understand certain things and eventually made our relationship better. 

I still can't stand mine and he's trying to mend the relationship too. Seems like you and me have a lot in common lol

I'm glad your relationship is better with him now tho. 

2 minutes ago, Judas said:

Don’t be embarrassed!! Mental Health is nothing to be embarrassed about. You cant keep it bottled in, you should try talk to your sister if you think she would understand 

I had found this therapist online last month, and their charges weren't that expensive either. I had some money back then and thought about talking to my sister, but then I chickened out and used the money recently on my cat's surgery. Now I don't have the money nor the courage. 

I'm just honestly waiting for highschool to finish so I can work on my own and bear my own expenses. 

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10 minutes ago, dafniye said:

If I talked to my parents about this they'll probably laugh or call me insane. My sisters though, I think to an extent they would understand, but I'm very embarrassed and ashamed to talk about it. I don't want to be labeled as a wannabe teenager by them. 

Please talk to your sisters, don't be ashamed, they are your sisters. I'm sure they will help you

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